The Science of Happily Ever After begins with the following conundrum: “How do you make smart decisions while falling madly in love?” It’s a question worthy of careful consideration because there are few things in life that feel as good as the joy of falling in love and few hopes as strong as the search for love that will endure. However, these powerful feelings of passionate love can compromise the ability to make rational decisions even for the best of us.
Choosing the right romantic partner is one of the most important decisions one will make in his or her lifetime and researchers find that there are few life events so strongly tied to our psychological well-being as the quality and stability of marital relationships. The Science of Happily Ever After is about the science of navigating the confusing world of modern dating and how choosing romantic partners with great traits dramatically improves the odds of finding relationships that are satisfying and stable.
The book begins with the good news that people have a good chance of getting their top three wishes fulfilled when it comes to the traits and characteristics of their ideal mate. However, researchers find that most people don’t take the time to prioritize the traits they want in a mate before venturing into the dating world, which results in people dating partners who don’t possess the traits that are most important in the long-run.
Illustrated using entertaining stories based on real-life situations, psychologist Ty Tashiro integrates a wide range of scientific findings from fields such as demography, sociology, and psychology to give people a framework for thinking about the complex and sometimes frustrating world of modern dating. He distills findings from hundreds of relationship studies into practical advice about which traits and characteristics of partners – including personality traits, relationship attitudes, and red flag behaviors in relationships – really matter in the quest for enduring love. The book provides useful information for singles, but it’s intended to entertain and inform anyone who is interested in the science of romantic relationships. Married individuals, singles, and students in social science courses have found The Science of Happily Ever After to be thought provoking, informative, and heartwarming.
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For readers who have already purchased the book and who are looking for scoring for the personality measure in Chapter 7, click here. I assured the publisher of the measure that I would password protect it and so you can use the first name of the male character in the Chapter 7 story to access the scoring. For readers interested in media perspectives on The Science of Happily Ever After, you can see an overview of these stories here.
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